Question for Everyone

Over the years, I have noticed a tendency, in others and in myself. I would like to hear what others think, too. The tendency is to avoid mature brothers or sisters in Christ when we're going through a rough patch (due to sin, bondage, pride or whatever). Is it that we're ashamed and/or fearful that someone might hold us accountable or ask a pointed question? The flip side of this tendency is that we overly involve ourselves in common (worldly) things like entertainment or social gatherings. Could it be we're lonely, looking for something/someone to fill us?

What are your thoughts?